One of women’s biggest mistakes is blaming the man for how he has treated her. In actuality the man has only been doing what we as women allow him to do. If you don’t want him to cheat, then leave. If you don’t want him to hit you, then leave. If you don’t want him to disrespect you, then leave. The list goes on. For a minute I thought GOD sent me someone that was my next big step. In actuality the devil simply placed a target on my back and in came misleading, deception and lies. I played blind to the fact that something wasn’t right because I wanted so bad for it to be what I was hoping for. When the truth did come out and his demeanor changed I still played the game. Now, finally after learning something about myself can I truly be 100% done. I love that I am determined, driven, goal-oriented, self-motivated, no-nonsense, independent, loyal and hard-working. But one thing I have also been is ignorant to the fact that I deserve what I want. I don’t have to settle for something just because I feel like what I want isn’t real. If being alone is the only way I will be happy then alone I will be. I refuse to deal with lazy, disrespectful, arrogant, dependent and/or liars who feel that you owe them something. When I really prayed about it and learned who I am and what I want – I decided to let go of my wish and work on my reality. There is nothing like having an ocean of dreams and a real man to help you sail on them. Knowing who you are will allow you to know what you want and who you want to take that journey with. Ladies….Stop complaining and start doing. I know someone is saying it is easier said than done, but it’s not. You are the only person who is holding the pen and writing the story of your life. Who you decide to write about in that book is all you. “The strength of a woman is not measured by the impact that all her hardships in life have had on her; but the strength of a woman is measured by the extent of her refusal to allow those hardships to dictate her and who she becomes.” ― C. JoyBell.