When you first meet someone you're engaged in every aspect of their exciting lives; the people they know, the games they play, the interest that keep them going and so on. As time goes by things you thought were cute in the beginning can become annoying or all together deal breakers. When you've spent a year with a person then one day wake up thinking "we need to talk" it is hard for them to understand where that is coming from. In the beginning realizing things you can and can't deal with will allow you to accept your partners faults. Here are 5 ways to determine if you will be able to accept your partners faults.
1) If the fault doesn't make you pretend. One way to get burnt out quickly is pretending to be someone you're not. When he makes a joke and you have to make yourself laugh or pretend it is funny eventually you will get annoyed by that type of sense of humor. If you have to pretend to like a sport, past time activities or food, you may not be able to last.
2) If you don't get overwhelmed. Being in a relationship takes work no matter what the circumstance, but if you're feeling overwhelmed by issues your someone has then it will only be a matter of time before those faults become deal breakers.
3) If you are unhappy. When you meet someone the roses always smell good. If after a few weeks you notice things that drive you crazy and keep you unhappy you may have to think outside the box on those concerns.
4) If you complain about those faults a lot. When someone is doing something and you complain about it every time this means it bothers you and you will not be able to get over it. For example, the way someone eats their food, if you are annoyed or irritated by it every time and have to complain about it, then you may not be able to move forward in the relationship.
5) If you loose yourself. Sometimes we want things to work so bad that we are willing to change what we will accept. If the person you are dating has faults that you simply can't get over without changing what you value, then they may not be the right fit for you.
Faults are what others consider, an unattractive or unsatisfactory feature, especially in a piece of work or in a person's character. Just because you or someone else might see what someone does as a fault doesn't mean that person themselves do. So if you tell someone they are doing something that annoys you and they don't think it is a big deal that is because it may not be to them.
We aren't supposed to be changing people. We are supposed to be building long lasting relationships with those that keep us engaged in a positive way. Find the person that lights your flame and it is hard to blow it out, but pay attention to the little things that could potentially cause heartache down the line.
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